Don't carry that history or energy into your next day or week. If you flip a coin and get tails, you're not any more or less likely to get tails the next toss. Each is a separate event. This is the first time I've recounted the entire story because when it was happening I wasn't dwelling on it.
I was working to move on every day. Even during that period, I never looked at it as a year of calamity. I faced each struggle individually as best I could and moved on. I was facing a hard time, but so were millions of others. Do the things you love. When things are bad, we tend to wallow in our misery. When it gets bad, we might attribute our circumstances to our own mistakes and errors and blame ourselves.
At it's worst, we might start thinking that we deserve this. It doesn't feel right to enjoy ourselves when we're struggling with some many challenges. This is, however, the exact time that it's most important to be enjoying yourself. Go out with friends, work out, get out in nature, create a healthy routine. This can all help to break that psychological downward spiral that can compound our issues.
Throughout my difficulties, I surfed, hiked, biked, saw friends. These activities hardly cost any money. They're the routines and habits we keep up when things are good, but are most therapeutic when things aren't going well.
See the positive. When I was 19, at the peak of health and youthful exuberance, on break from college, I had an accident with a snowblower that tore up the fingers on my left hand.
At the hospital, I was distraught, cursing my circumstances and luck. Shortly after arriving, another patient arrived with a similar accident. He'd lost several fingers. I would need surgery, and would likely have some impairment; but I hadn't lost any fingers.
My outlook changed in an instant. I'd had an unlucky accident, but been blessed not to lose any fingers. Had that not happened, I may have spent months or years cursing my luck. Instead, I rebounded quickly and still think how lucky I am not to have lost any fingers. Embrace serendipity.
No matter how bad it may seem, life doesn't have it out for you. There's no bias, no conspiracy. The world will feel scarce, when you're focused on the scarcity. You can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most powerful characters in this great world are seared with scars.
I survived and I have my scars to prove it! And now I have a chance to grow even stronger. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion.
It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it. And every step will feel better than anything else you can imagine. You will realize that the struggle is not found on the path, it is the path.
Be positive when negativity surrounds you. Smile when others try to bring you down. When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Rarely do people do things because of you. They do things because of them. Change because it makes you a better person and leads you to a brighter future. People are going to talk regardless of what you do or how well you do it. So worry about yourself before you worry about what others think.
Great strength comes from overcoming what others think is impossible. All jokes aside, your life only comes around once. This is IT. So do what makes you happy and be with whoever makes you smile, often. True strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.
There are blessings hidden in every struggle you face, but you have to be willing to open your heart and mind to see them. You can only drive yourself crazy trying.
In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be.
Read A New Earth. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher. Find the strength to laugh every day. Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful. Find it in your heart to make others smile too. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going. Keep growing. Leave a comment below and share your thoughts. Photo by: Antonio Buccella. I needed this very badly..
Thanks a ton for all the wonderful words of encouragement you are giving others. The past.. Just make better choices, and choose to feel good. But we make choices, and these choices decide how our lives play out. It comes from within.
Another chance for you to improve yourself, and another chance for you to become more experienced and wise. They fix themselves and come back stronger and bigger.. The person who said these things is scared that either —. We can get a job stacking shelves working full time aka- sell your soul and have just enough money to pay bills and buy food. We could do that for 40 years, then retire and die.
But what did you achieve?! Even bad ideas have known to spark amazing ones. The best way to avoid hating your life is to remind yourself that you have a good life.
When things go wrong, life gets a little bit darker. No matter who you are, there is always — and I mean always — something to be happy about. All those particles that you are made up of somehow got together and created you and gave you life. Negativity is ugly. Surround yourself with beauty. To be successful is to have a good, logical plan and to carry it out in a timely manner. You have to think, plan and then get it done. You still know what you want and want it just as bad, if not more.
By Paul Hudson.
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